ImmigrationFraudVictims

Hi,

Most of the current members already know my story. My wife is a Guatemalan national who started her quest for a VAWA based Greencard before we married. She accused me of being a violent and mentally unstable individual in attempt to secure her greencard via VAWA. The county discovered she was seeing VAWA advocates before and days after we married.

I was able to discover a pattern of fraud a little too late. However, there were some warning signs I ignored. During the marriage I did everything (travel, liposuction, camera equipment, car, home and my heart ) I could for my wife. In the end, she defrauded me of everything I own including my livelihood.

Other Forms of Fraud

1. The residency seeker secured employment as a school teacher in Minnesota at a school called Passport Pals with false academic credentials ( Psychology and Veterinary Medicine).

2. The residency seeker was diagnosed with Bipolar ( Type-1) disorder just days into our marriage, but she did not disclose the diagnosis to me and she may have concealed this information from immigration as well.

3. In Minnesota we lots property at an apartment between a move in to a home we purchased in Eagan, Minnesota. We went to Civil Court to recover our losses and Town Center at Lexington was willing to negotiate. I assembled a fair settlement on items I lost and the residency seeker added what she lost to the list. After we were paid and leaving the court room, the residency seeker was laughing and bragging about the extra items she added to the list of missing items. I informed Town Center at Lexington of the discrepancies, but they did not peruse civil actions to recover their losses.

4. When I first met the residency seeker she told me about forging her deceased father's signature to secure his assets and a University (Universidad De Rafeal Landivar - Guatemala ) pension for her mother. I thought maybe a father would want his assets going to his daughters, but not an X-wife. This should have been the first sign to leave the relationship.


Gathering and building an exensive list of fraudulent activity helped me in my criminal hearing for 5th degree domestic assault (was not convicted) divorce settlement . I fought a legal battle for a year and the residency seeker tried to smear and potray me as an unfit father. In the end, I secured joint legal custody of our two year old son who was my primary concern during the divorce negotiations. I was left with the bulk of the debt and I lost my home, car, property and normal relations with my son. I am still working to secure joint physical custody of our two year old son.


Regards,

Sean Moffett
Stop VAWA Based Immigration Fraud!
http://seansevah.blogspot.com

Hello,

My story is similar in the fact that I too did everything for the person that I married. I was a good woman, provider and team player. My ex-husband took all that I did for him and turned everything around any way he could to use it against me. From what I understand he received his PR based on him filing a VAWA against me.

The sad part is that man is a total liar and scammer who was a doctor in his home country Nigeria and is now trying to become a doctor here in the states. We too have a son that he named Victor Obinna Ezike Jr. only to leave him at 3-weeks old. What alot of people don't know that haven't sponsored a person from a third world country is that many of these people don't marry for love, they Marry for convience, for what they will receive if they were to Marry an American. Such was my ex-husband.

I just want to encourage all Americans and PR to speak up and tell their story if they have been used for a greencard, please, let your legislature in your hometown know about what happened to you, they need to hear from you so maybe once they hear enough they will move to change the way they handle Aliens and the U.S. citizens that marry them. More later.........

Check out this website from Columbus, OH

www.jingmenpianzi.com

This is crazy, how the hell are these stories soo similar?
I'm new here and I've been looking for someplace like this for about a month now.
My wife has not been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, but the family and I know she has it, including a personality disorder. I tried to submit this information in my testamony during the injunction, but my lawyer didn't submit any part of it, as a matter of fact, my lawyer didn't even submit my whole testimony when he said he would. I have another attorney and she sounds really good, but I'll be warey to the end. Evidence is hard to get because of the dumbass suporters of the lier, and money is hard to come by right now especially because of the economy.

How can many come together to make one single but large lawsuit against everyone enforcing this law? wouldn't it make judges think twice?

Can I make a civil lawsuit against my witnesses for not testifying? The officer who attempted thirty time to subpeana my witness wasn't succesful eventhough he saw her in the window.

The batteirng classs I'm taking is killing my sole. I almost had a fight with the real woman beaters in the class. NO ONE wants to hear what I have to say and it's killing me.

I'm starting to change and I hope it's not for the worst. My oldest son is going to a psychiatrist one day per week. He is
depressed as well as me. He overheard my wife's lies and he got mad at her and her friends. He's only nine years old.

Sorry to hear this is happening to you.

My advise is to fight this the best you can but do so on a budget. No need to spend allot of money trying to get justice.

What you are going through is typical of almost everyone. I remember when it happened to me I spent allot of time thinking I must be doing something wrong in getting justice. Eventually I came to the conclusion the deck has been so stacked against that happening that I could no fault myself in not finding the right key. The best thing is to roll with it and give the system all the contempt in your mind it deserves. You are the good guy!

Send me a PM if you would like to talk.

Maxx

She gets all the help and I, the VICTIM get nothing but PTSD.

I still wonder how my ex can put her head on the pillow and sleep. I know I don’t matter to her now, but sooner or later she will remember what she did and she will think about me.

Now it still hurts, it's ugly and it's evil.

I know the only way to get away from it is to leave it.

I have some insight into her demons. I know she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It makes me pity her. I can forgive her. The more I found out about her, the uglier it became. I discovered her darkest side and it makes me nauseous.

I'd rather stay away from her ugly world. I know there is evil in the world, but I need to move on.

I still wonder why she did the awful things that she did. I need to be more aware of who's around me. I should never assume that I know someone well enough to trust them 100%.

The realizations at first were so shocking to me, it was painful to see and learn what evil human beings there are. I saw her as the devil doing his work on earth. It takes time to come to terms with the fact that somebody who declares their love can be so horribly cruel, sadistically getting a great big kick out of hurting you. I didn't want to believe it was all deliberate maliciousness, but in the end I had to accept it as reality, then learned to accept it, I began healing then, but that belief in human kindness has gone forever, bit like lost innocence, I find it hard to trust anybody now…

The WHY can get very long and drawn out. As curious and intelligent humans we always want to know why. Ultimately, the WHY doesn't matter so much because it is about HER... I need to keep focusing on myself and moving forward.

Viewing her abuse as the result of earlier abuse and injury by her first husband, viewing her abuse as the result of her narcissistic personality disorder, has helped me understand intellectually why she did what she did.

With that understanding, I fully advocate and urge anyone who is being abused in any way to run, not walk, away from abuse. That’s why I filed for divorce.

At the end of the day, it doesn't really matter WHY one person hurts another. All that matters is getting ourselves into a place of safety and health ---- so that we may ENJOY our life and live it with health and contentment.

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The last 3 weeks she was still at the house she was contacting shelters trying to be accepted by one. She was telling me what she was doing and why she was doing it. There were no secrets. Everything was said out in the open and it was very hurting.

She said she had used me and abused me. She said she would accuse me of domestic violence. She talked about it as if she was winning some kind of a game. She also called me a loser. She behaved like the NARCISSIST that she is.

Can you explain how going to a domestic violence shelter based on false accusations is “winning”?

I have scars. I have been trying to heal from them for the past 9 months. I have made new friends. I got a new girl-friend. I am trying to stay active.

However, I can’t get a job as long as I am suffering from PTSD symptoms. I see 2 therapists and I am trying to heal as quickly as possible.

Her abuse has caused me long lasting traumatic effects: panic attacks, hyper-vigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), suicidal ideation, psychosomatic symptoms, shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, abandonment, an enhanced sense of vulnerability and other PTSD symptoms.

I still have flashbacks and intrusive memories every morning followed by psychosomatic symptoms...

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How does a TRUE victim of domestic violence goes from being a victim to being a narcissistic abuser in one shot, one relationship?

Answer: As a narcissist she had a very conflictive relationship with her first (Mexican) husband. As you know, Mexican men do not treat their women well and they are nothing but understanding. When he received her narcissistic abuse, he responded with violence.

I was at the court session when he confessed to the violence. I saw blood stains on the pillows and other evidence for the violence.

That's why I wanted to help her.

So I helped her so much for 3 years. I gave her and her sons everything they needed and wanted. I even married her so that she can become legal in this country. When I realized she was abusing me I filed for divorce (3 months after we got married). Because she thought she DESERVED MORE, she made false accusations of domestic violence against me.

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On Jan. 29th a judge signed the final decree of the divorce I petitioned.

Before that, on Jan. 23 the same judge dismissed all charges against me. These were false allegations against me made by the women I was briefly married to, for only three months…

On Jan. 16 I was served by the sheriff. They had a judge’s order to take my car and deliver it to this woman. The car was totally mine. We had a pre-nup. It was also a premarital property. She made the allegations in order to fraudulently gain immigration benefits and in order to get a car that wasn’t hers.

When I met her in October 2005 she was a Domestic Violence Victim and I wanted to help. I never imagined she would end up accusing me of the same. I offered her and her 3 sons to stay in my house.

In august 2008 she asked (begged) me to marry her because she was out of legal status in the US and wanted to become legal and needed to see her son in Mexico. Again I wanted to help and I agreed. On Aug. 27 – 2008 she and I got married.

Immediately after we got married her behavior changed dramatically. It became clear to me that something was totally wrong with our marriage. She threatened me to “leave me a present” meaning “send me to jail”. I thought she was under a lot of stress and again I felt pity. On Oct. 5 – 2008 I filed for immigration for her and on Nov. 9 – 2008 for her 2 children.

She had managed to create a deep conflict between her 2 children and their own father and now she was working on doing the same between her 2 children and me. Her children’s behavior was becoming more and more unhealthy. When I discussed her sons’ situation with her she lost her temper, and later she would turn that into Emotional Violence in order to gain Immigration Benefits. On November 27 she told her son, to cut off the TV cables which he did in 4 places.

As I realized the situation was becoming very unhealthy I asked her to look for another place to stay. On November 29 she went to the police which escorted her and her children back to our residence. On Sunday Nov. 30 2008 she informed me that she is with another man and intends to stay married to me only for the purpose of gaining Immigration Benefits. On Monday Dec. 1 2008 – for the above reason - I filed the Divorce Petition.

She immediately began to look for ways to retaliate against me. She joined the Domestic Violence Program - VAWA claiming there was “Emotional Violence” against her children. On Dec. 19 2008 she and her children left our residence and moved to the Dekalb County Domestic Violence Women’s Shelter. She left to the shelter using my 2007 SUV that I lent her.

On Dec. 31 2008 I came to her sister’s house to wish them a Happy New Year and to pick up my 2007 SUV. When I was driving the vehicle away she and her two sons ran out in front of the vehicle in an attempt to forcefully stop the running vehicle thus endangering their own lives and mine.

On Jan. 8 2009 she filed a petition for a Temporary Protective Order - FALSELY accusing me of domestic violence against her and her children.

On Jan. 23 2009 the Temporary Protective Order was dismissed by a Superior Court judge – finding her accusations to be FALSE.

While giving her testimony she referred to events that allegedly took place on a trip to Orlando, FL in June 2008, proving that when she asked me to marry her in August 2008 her intentions were dishonest.

Finally, on Jan. 29 2009 the FINAL DECREE of Divorce was granted a Superior Court judge.

The memories are still tormenting me. I am suffering from insomnia, nightmares, flashbacks and the same thoughts repeat over and over again causing physical pain – stomach aches, chest pains, head-aches, elevated heart beat…