Used By Husband To Get Green Card For Him And His Parents
Written on July 31st, 2012
First let me say that I trully loved my husband or I would never have married again. My life is shattered and I am heartbroken.
My husband and his parents used me to get their green cards in the USA. He swore up and down he loved me despite our age differenece. He cheated on me the first year of our marriage.
They are from Nepal and his sister used me as much as she could as well. These people think they are better than everyone else. They are nothing more than low life lieing cheating thieves. They are nasty dirty people. His father is a piece of garbage. I have never seen women treated so badly but by these two men. They act like they are supposed to be treated like a king and they don't deserve it. I was supposed to work and bring home the money and cook and clean and they were to be treated like royalty. I'm no slave !!!!
He and his father and sister went to look for a house to buy before his sister got married. After my husband and I got married they never took me to look for a house. The two men signed the papers behind my back and didn't even tell me. My husband had not even seen the house, what a moran. Then they fully expected me to take care of it and pay bills. His father took the house on his taxes two years in a row. The second year I told him we would take the house on the taxes as I had a lot of medical expenses to write off. His dad went behind my back and did it anyway and my husband didn't tell me until we were getting out of the car to do our taxes. That cost me $1500.00 I was so pissed. The next year I made sure I was taking the house. I will make sure I get the house this year as well or I will report his stupid *** to the IRS.
These people take advantage of you at every turn. They look for reasons to make you feel as though you are inadequate and not worthy and that you have done something wrong to them and not deserving of them. They are the ones who are not deserving.
His sister was pregnant before she got married and the man didn't want to marry her nor did his mother want him to marry her. the mans mother had a woman all picked out for him already. She is just like the father; a low life cheating thieving piece of garbage. She has also been married and divorced as well. She told me one time when she stayed with us that she felt like a queen because she was walking around not doing anything but yelling at the father to wait on her hand and foot. She tried yelling at my husband but I quickly told her there will be none of that in my house he is my husand I will be the only one to yell at him but she felt she was the only queen in the house I let her know I was the only queen in the house and if she did't like it theres the door get the hell out. She never cleaned she never cooked she never did anything to help out. She never paid a damn bill or bought anything, nothing.
I had two very difficult surgeries, they did nothing to help me. I had a hystorectomy and another surgery to do repair because I went back to work too soon and hurt myself from the first surgery. They were driving me nuts I felt as though I had to escape. They never even asked if I wanted water or bread; they never checked to see if I was alive or dead. They didn't care. I couldn't do anything for myself and had a hard time walking, I had two cathetor bags in me and one was sewn into my lower abdomin. They still didn't care. I had to climb two flights of stairs just to go to the bathroom and two more flights to take a shower as we lived in a two story townhome. I lived in the basement.
When christmas came around I dragged myself out of bed to make sure they had a good christmas, I had so many gifts for them I had to hang some on the wall and under the tree and on the couch and in front of the tv. What did I get? I got 4 or 5 boxes of cheap dollar store chocolates, paper note pad, a dollar store vase, thats about it. I bought gifts for four adults and two children and thats all they could do for me. My husband went the day before christmas and bought me a necklace but he knew it was the type I DID NOT LIKE !!!! I had to take it back.
My husband did everything he could to aggrevate me and start fights with me. He drove me insane. He tried to make me feel like everything was my fault. Like I was to blame for everything. I literally thought I was going insane.
I went to Nepal to get his mother and make sure she could get through all the check points with me. The stay there was interesting and I appreciated learning about the history and the culture but I could not sleep. The bed was so hard and I have a bad back and neck and was still recovering from my surgery and was heavily medicated. I had a work accident that I was still dealing with back and neck pain over. Basically I had no business going but I made this woman a promise and when I would talk to her on the phone she sounded so sweet and sincere, boy was I wrong.
When she got here to the US she was ok for about 2 to 3 weeks. Then she began making trouble with me. She flat told me once that she was my husbands mother and she would cook for him. I told her I was his wife and I have been cooking for him for three years and by the looks of his belly I have been doing a damn good job so why don't she take care of her own husband and stay the hell out of my marriage.
I came home one day from taking care of my cancer stricken mother after 3 or 4 days exhausted and literally fell in the door. My husband was on the couch. I asked him why didn't he come out and help me get my things out of the car (as he was watching from the open window). He started to fight with me. I was so tired I didn't care anymore I told him to pack his shit and go back to Nepal when he threatened to leave. Well hell, here she came down the stairs yelling and screaming. They must have had it planned. After a while of listening to both my husband and his mother screaming obsenities at me here comes the father yelling and screaming and they all followed me to my room where I finally broke down crying hyserically and told them to get the hell out go back to Nepal. My mother is dying and I don't have time for their immature crap. I don't care what their problems are anymore . I have done everything for them and my mom is very sick and I don't need this crap. They need to be helping me and taking care of me now. His Mom kept yelling "I'll go back to Nepal" I said good theres the door when can you pack? I can take you to the airport right now...
i decided it was time to sell the house and get out. On June 15th we went to sign the papers for the house. Now mind you the mother had only been in the US for 3 1/2 months. I demanded that I get my own check, otherwise I knew my father in law would not give me any money. That woman didn't contribute one damn dime, I sent her money many times when she was in Nepal to help her out. Would you believe that woman got 1/4 of the house money? That night when we got home my husband and his parents started another fight with me. It ended in my having to fight for my life. My husband and his parents followed me to my room, (after the family they invited over left after I said I didnt' want anyone over to the house as we needed to talk and sort things out). After the relatives left.They all ganged up on me, my husband was pushing me and hitting me and not letting me leave my room much less the house, his mom was helping him push him me into me and pushing me and to keep me from leaving, my father in law got the phone and kept messing with it so I couldn't make a call. I finally got a dial tone and called the police who told them to leave the house for the night. The DA filed felony charges against them for kidnapping because they would not let me leave. I filed charges against them for abuse.
Now my husband has a facebook page that basically states he is a victim because I don't love him no more which is crap but whatever !!!!! They have done everything they can to use me and then get rid of me. I am not going away quietly. They are going to be exposed for the low life garbage that they are.
My husbands FB page is Sulav Kattel ;(https://www.facebook.com/sulav.kattel.3?ref=ts
) you will notice that he states he is married but he has no picture of us together, neither does he state who he is married to. His page is full of quotes that he does not site the author for so he is basically taking credit for everything on his page and in one comment to a woman he does take credit. Thats plagerism, and also another huge lie. (https://www.facebook.com/sulav.kattel.3 ... launcher45
) This is the page I made for him when we both got a facebook page not too long ago to speak to family back in Nepal and family here in the US.
These people need to be stopped. The immigration department is a mess, they need to be totally revamped and an investigation into the rules and regulations needs to be done immediately. They only have to be married for 3 years to qualify to get the green card then they can divorce. Thats bullshit!!! They have to wait 10 years to qualify for permanent residency, why not be married for that long too to qualfy?
They don't deserve to be in this country and I don't want them to abuse another American. Please spread the word about these people. Do not help anyone get their green card. Its not worth your own self respect.
If you have experienced with this or similar acts please talk to me and let me know what you did to endure the pain of this most horrible betrayol.
Also, what were you able to do with regard to making sure they were deported? I have worked so hard for almost 4 years to help them. Now it is all down the drain. I was hurt so badly, my heart has ached with so much pain because I trully loved him and tried so hard to make things work. Please give me your guidance, insight and wisdom as well as any suggestions as to what I can do to stop them.
Do you know anyone who works at USCIS? I want to get a fax number and an investigator into this immediately. I need a fax number to fax all the case information for the immigration cases and the police reports and felony charges upon them now. Any help or guidance woud be greatly helpful.
I appear in court Aug. 22, 2012 at 1:30 for the protective order, the first time i went for the proctective order my hubands attorney stated that they needed an interpretor and also he mentioned numerous times he was just hired on the prior friday; it was Monday . I objected as my husband speaks perfect english and understands it just as well.
The parents sat next to him and had their own attorney but she was no where to be found. On Aug. 24, 2012 at 9 am I go with the district attorney for the felony kidnapping charges against them for not allowing me to leave the house. This is not the first time my husband has done this. He has done this many many times.
I had lunch with and spoke with the attorney and office manager who helped with the immigration process. They were both shocked and saddened and very dissappointed in Sulav but there is nothing they can do. Of course I didn't expect them to do anything but I had grown very close to them and even had the attorney to my house for dinner once. I was and am still very fond of them and have nothing but respect for them. I discovered while talking to them that their immigration case had been under investigation while it was in Colorado with their former attorney. I had no idea this was the case and still don't know why it was.
If you can help me please contact me by email at : firstname.lastname@example.org
Thank you for taking the time to read my letter
Many blessings to others who have suffered this most horrible crime.