ImmigrationFraudVictims

False accusations…Why not? Do YOU care?

Martha was physically abused by her Mexican husband for 17 years. In 2002 they moved to the US and in 2005 she got him arrested for Domestic Violence and filed for a Temporary Protective Order which was granted for a period of 1 year.

Her husband filed for divorce and Martha hired a lawyer to help her.

When I met Martha in October 2005 she told me that she was a Domestic Violence Victim and I wanted to help. I never imagined she would end up accusing me of the same. I offered her and her 3 sons to stay in my house.

I remember that on our first date Martha said that she is like play-dough, meaning that she can adapt herself to any husband. I thought that was a strange comment and I asked her to just be herself. For three years she pretended to be the perfect wife. She talked to me for hours, she cooked, she slept with me, she told me she wanted to be my wife. She made me believe and I gave her so much because I trusted her and I wanted to believe.

In august 2008 she asked (begged) me to marry her because she was out of legal status in the US and wanted to become legal and needed to see her son in Mexico. Again I wanted to help and I agreed. On Aug. 27 – 2008 Martha and I got married.

As soon as we got married things drastically changed. The day we got married she knew she didn’t need me any more. She had this plan in her head for a long time and now was the time to execute it.

There is a law in this country called Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Under this law a woman can simply claim that she is a domestic violence victim and she gets all the help she needs: Housing, Legal, Psychological, Medical, Employment and Immigration papers to stay in this country…

She didn't care how much she would hurt me. She didn't care how much she would hurt her own family, her sister, her nephews and her brother-in-law.

It became clear to me that something was totally wrong with our marriage. Martha threatened me to “leave me a present” meaning “send me to jail”. I thought she was under a lot of stress and again I felt pity. On Oct. 5 – 2008 I filed for immigration for her and on Nov. 9 – 2008 for her 2 children.

I realized the situation was becoming very unhealthy. On Sunday Nov. 30 2008 Martha informed me that she married me only for the purpose of gaining Immigration Benefits. On Monday Dec. 1 2008 – for the above reason - I filed the Divorce Petition.

I thought filing for divorce was the right thing to do. I had no idea that it would turn into my worst nightmare. She had this plan in her head for a long time and now was the time to execute it.

I remember how from one day to another she turned from what I thought was my lover, to my worst enemy.

I remember how she went to the police, then called the police from my house, how she acted as a victim, how the police told her not to call them anymore. How she found a VAWA agent so she could get VAWA benefits and immigration services, all paid for by the federal government – or rather, by us.

I remember how after a couple of weeks in the shelter she filed for a temporary protective order which was full of lies.

I remember that after a couple of minutes of her telling her lies the judge got tired of listening and dismissed the petition. He knew of course she was lying.

I remember how a policeman asked her to return the car keys and I got them back.

I remember that just a few days later the same judge granted me the divorce without even asking any questions, like he knew about everything, the lying, the cheating, the manipulations, the false accusations. That she is manipulating the system to get VAWA benefits: Housing, Legal, Psychological, Medical, Employment and Immigration papers to stay in this country…

She can get all that by simply claiming that she is a domestic violence victim… and because I am a US citizen.

Can you believe it?

Why should she not make false accusation against me? It is a crime, you know, but nobody would care.

Do YOU care?

Get as far as I can from her ugly world.

It is 3 o’clock in the morning. I had a flash-back and I am awake. I can’t sleep.
Now that I am awake I feel at peace… Here is why:

I have been working hard on analyzing the traumatic events and I think I got most of it out of the dark. There was a bunch of stuff I just could not remember. I think I remember most of it now.

The flash-back was about the last surgery that she had. It was a cosmetic surgery. I paid for it. I drove her to and from the surgery. I sat by her bed for two weeks after the surgery. I gave her pills and suppositories for pain. I really took care of her.

Then I needed a couple of surgeries. It was out-patient procedures. She drove me to the surgeries and back. But something went horribly wrong…

I suppose she couldn’t stand to see that I had a medical problem, that I was not perfect, that I needed to be operated on, that I was bleeding, that my face was swollen and not so pretty to look at for a while… That I too had defects and that I was not perfect.

THAT’S IT. I have my defects. I am human. I bleed. I was bleeding. She could not take it. After that our relationship got worse every single day. She instigated most of it: The quarrels, the insane things she did with her 2 sons that made them hate me so much (like making them walk long distances instead of borrowing my car which she did again and again like a lunatic). That was a part of her plan so that they would cooperate when it would come to the worse part, the FALSE ACCUSATIONS of Domestic Violence.

I didn’t even fully recover from the surgery when she started calling the police… She needed the police reports as evidence…

She had this plan in her mind to accuse me of domestic violence and get to a shelter. They told her about the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) when her first husband was arrested for beating her in 2005. She would only have to claim there was violence. They don’t ask for any proof. They would accept her to the program… the only problem is that she would hurt me in the process.

So she did it. She made false accusations against me so she could get VAWA benefits.

She made the false accusations of Domestic Violence. We went to court and her accusations were DISMISSED. I spiraled into the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I was very sick for months and I didn't know what was happening to me. Then I found out that I had PTSD and I started analyzing the events.

It is 3 o’clock in the morning and I am awake. I feel at peace more than I did before. I have been working hard on analyzing the traumatic events. I think I remember most of it now.

It was not my fault. I am human. I have defects. I have a medical problem and I need surgeries. She is very sick. She had been abused by her first husband for 17 years. She cannot love another man. She is incapable of having a normal relationship with a man. She could not handle it. She is only capable of abusing men. How could I expect her to take care of me? HOW???

STUPID ME…

I wish for it to be over now. I want it to be over. I want to be able to sleep at night. I wish I could forget it all. I wish the thoughts, flash-backs and nightmares would go away forever.

Before I knew her I lived in a nice world where everybody around me was good and people did not hurt each-other. She revealed to me a world that I never knew before, that I did not want to know: A world of evil and malice, a world of ABUSE and FALSE ACCUSATIONS.

My life has changed forever and will never be the same again. I now live in an UGLY, FILTHY, DISGUSTING and EVIL world that I never knew existed. I have changed forever. I will never be the same again, thanks to her entering my life…

I want to get as far as I can from her ugly, filthy, disgusting and evil world. She can stay there if she wants. That would be her choice.

I want to get away from her UGLY WORLD.